Another One Bites The Dust

"I have acted in a way that violates my obligations to my family and violates my, or any, sense of right and wrong. I apologize first and most importantly to my family."

The biggest scandal in New York's political history is still leaving after shocks. Elliot Spitzer, the governor of New York was caught during a Federal investigation of a high-end escort agency.

Spitzer admitted his guilt and resigned. Details began to emerge. The tryst that got him caught cost him $4500 - which made Lewis Black speculate that for $4500 he should have had a couch thrown into the transaction. Spitzer is alleged to have spent $80 000 over the past 10 years on prostitutes.

I don't think it's any fluke that the cover story of the latest Christianity Today deals with sexual addiction. Although the CT article focuses primarily on this addiction in the church, sexual addiction is now rampant in our society, with over 70% of men aged 18-34 having viewed porn in the past month.

I believe Spitzer is a sex addict. He has had numerous encounters with prostitutes over an extended period of time. He kept this behaviour hidden. All of his closest friends are in shock, shaking their heads and saying " I thought I knew him better". There is a very sad video clip of Mad Money host Jim Cramer choking back tears at what has happened to his friends, (he went to Harvard Law with both Spitzer and his wife, and knows them both very well -but not well enough apparently). Spitzer also worked hard against corrupt financial misconduct on wall street. (Flash back to Ted Haggard or Mark Foley here).

As an addict he was living in the unreality of having this double life, while posing as a pillar of integrity to his peers, and the nation. Spitzer had built up this bizzaro fantasy world that he thought no one would ever find out. Whether it takes 10 years or 50 years, every addict eventually gets found out.

Sexual addiction is a horrible tsunami which leaves disillusioned children and deeply wounded spouses in its wake. If you have even the slightest weakness in this area, I urge you to seek out a recovery program that will help you to live in victory.

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Anil said…
Santosh,
What is an addiction? Chemical imbalance in the brain that denies people the ability to make a choice? Where does one draw a line between sinfulness and addiction? Is visiting a commercial sex worker the same as harm reduction?
Anil
9:09 AM
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