The Path of the Lonely
As a pastor, I listen to a lot of other sermons, I read a lot of books and articles and I listen to a lot of people at various points of crisis in their lives. Every once in awhile I come across something which touches a deep part of me. Today I read something like that.
I was skyping my brother who lives trans-continentally in New York City and St. Andrews Scotland. Today He was in New York. On Wednesday he'll be in Scotland.
He directed me to this article:
It is written by Wesley Hill - a homosexual Christian man who has chosen to be abstinent, rather than fulfill his sexuality by being in a relationship with another man. Hill shows the incredible context of loneliness and secrecy that many homosexuals in our churches have to live within. This hiddenness is no doubt borne out of a number of factors - including the church's own reputation of intolerance, fear and sometimes even hatred.
I am deeply saddened that the church, which in theory should be an outpost of love, grace and acceptance is instead viewed as the LAST place you could admit the truth about yourself, if you are gay.
Hill is currently writing a book about what it means for him to be a homosexual Christian who chooses abstinence. I can't wait to read it - in fact I think every pastor should read both this article, and his book when it comes out. It will help us to be more empathetic and compassionate to these men and women who carry this tremendous secret around with them.
"God, help us to love and accept our gay sisters and brothers. These are men and women created in your image, who you love with an infinite love. Help our churches be "safe" places where they can process their sexuality within a context of love and acceptance."
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